Sexual domination: all about soft sado-masochism

Sado-masochism (or SM) is a sexual practice punctuated by dominant/dominated relationships. You want to introduce you to bondage, integrate handcuffs or spanking in your sexual encounters? Here is a guide to discovering step by step the techniques of SM soft and sexual domination.

What is soft SM?

Sadomasochism is a role-based sexual practice, where one partner is the dominant and the other the dominated. There are no predefined gendered roles, and the submissive can be just as much the man as the woman, and vice versa for the dominant. Thus, a power struggle is established in the sexuality between the two partners, and it is this roleplay that fuels sexual arousal. The dominant takes power over the dominated and imposes sexual practices where he has the ascendancy over him.

There is, therefore, a notion of violence and pain (moderate and of course granted). Indeed, one of the essential things in SM practice is consent. You have to make the difference between the game and real violence that would be inappropriate. It is therefore imperative to set a limit between the partners, never to cross. Everything depends on trust: if one of the partners says stop or does not feel comfortable, the game must end.

Why does the SM give us pleasure?

Sadomasochism is based on a system of submission and domination. It is these roles and the associated symbolism that provide sexual pleasure to the partners. On the side of the submissive, this consent is synonymous with oppression and servitude. It is this docility that allows one to let go and surrender to the sovereignty of one’s partner.

On the side of the dominant, exerting absolute dominance provides a feeling of power and power. Just like submission, this domination is not perverse: it is merely the time of sexual intercourse, to enter the skin of another. If one is by nature someone shy or who considers oneself to be docile, it can be the occasion to experiment with a new behavior.

When the whip provides pleasure

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One of the most common practices in the SM is probably the martinet. The whip is a kind of whip made of suede or leather thongs. There are several models with more or fewer strips and are more or less sensitive. To get started, you can caress the erogenous zones of the body (breasts, buttocks, etc.). Then you can increase the intensity by giving small light knocks on fleshy areas, such as buttocks or thighs, where the pain will be less.

If your partner enjoys it, increase the intensity of the strikes and vary the areas of the body. You can go further by adjusting the intensity of the shots, always according to the reactions of your partner. Finally, for a more light domination version, you can trade the swift against your hand, and thus experience the classic spanking, less impressive if you start in the SM.

Bondage, what is it?

Bondage is another well-known practice of sadomasochism. It involves attaching your partner to himself with a rope, chains, etc. These knots can be made at the wrists or ankles, without being too tight to avoid injury. They are made to constrain the movements of the tied up person, who is then prey to the contacts of his partner.

Similarly, handcuffs allow you to attach your partner to a bed or a chair for example. You have access to his whole body, which becomes a free area for your caresses. There are also clips that are attached to the breasts, which stimulate the nipples, which are an erogenous zone in men as in women.

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